Motherhood has given me many things, but right up there with some of the best bits about becoming a Mum are the great new friends I have made since having Becky and Alex - real friendships with people who I wouldn’t want to miss and who are there during the ups and downs of this parent malarkey, and, without whom, quite frankly, it would be a lot harder sometimes.
I have made Mummy friends back in the day when Becky was a baby, and also as she grows through nursery and preschool, as well as having met some wonderful women since I’ve had Alex, whom I have formed a close bond and connection with.
These are all wonderful, clever, funny and independent ladies, and I’ve relied on their support and camaraderie more than I probably realise.
My Mummy friends are great because:
* They are totally unfazed when your house is in a mess, the dishes undone, the laundry piling up, dust gathering everywhere - because theirs is, too. They just move the pile of stained kid’s clothes from the couch, pour themselves a cuppa and get on with it.
* They understand when you look like death; pale, make-up free with greasy hair, because you’ve been up all night with the kids who have tag teamed up against you into the wee hours.
* They don’t bat an eyelid when you arrive for your mummy date frazzled, in yesterday’s clothes with puke and snot stains all over – because they are going through the same. Instead, they hand you a baby wipe, a G&T and point to the piece of dried up banana that’s sticking to their trouser leg.
* They don’t judge you because you’ve forgotten to fill out essential forms for your daughter’s school induction *ahem* because, they, too, have temporarily “misplaced” the forms. And handed them in late. Oh well.
* Instead, us Mummy friends commiserate each other over our membership in the “Bad Mums Club”, laughing off our everyday failings and little shortcomings and together making ourselves feel a whole load better.
* They listen when you just need a moan or a cry or have got the occasional wobble about, well, everything. And what’s said in the playground, stays in the playground.
* They make you laugh – a lot, because they share your sense of humour and a healthy dose of sarcasm, irony and self-deprecation.
* You can forever discuss with them every teeny tiny aspect of your kid’s lives – yes, even the frequency and consistency of their bowel movements – without ever getting bored.
* They compare notes with you and support you without competing against you. They are your allies in baby groups, play circles and during parent evenings and when everyone else seems so much more “together” than you.
* They love wine as much as you and understand that alcohol is an essential food group in any Mum’s
* Meeting up on an evening for two hours WITHOUT THE KIDS is the height of our social life – and a night out consists of two glasses of vino down the local pub before we all go home at 9pm, knackered and tipsy, to hit the sack – of course once we’ve put the world to rights!
* They are willing to babysit your brood when you just need to get away or actually have to be somewhere important, and you do the same for them. That’s true sisterhood right there.
* Often your Mummy friends are your only bit of adult interaction all day, especially in the early weeks and months of maternity leave, and even if conversation centres around nappies, leaking boobs and stitches “down there” - it’s still an actual conversation. With adults!
* They make sense of and give perspective in the picture perfect “Insta-world” of parenting and reassure you that you’re actually doing a good job, no ifs, no buts. What more can you want?
Here’s to my lovely Mummy friends. You know who you are!
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